Comments on: Mixed Marriages – A Case of Modern Love http://pinaymom.org/mixed-marriages-a-case-of-modern-love/ The site for all Pinay Moms by Pinay Mom Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:49:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: EdZee http://pinaymom.org/mixed-marriages-a-case-of-modern-love/#comment-55 EdZee Sun, 20 Sep 2009 10:52:06 +0000 http://pinaymom.org/?p=185#comment-55 My wife and I are both Catholics so we do not have any differences both in beliefs and in practice if it concerns us and our family. Religious differences occurred when we joined a community. Not between my wife and I but with the other couples in the community. We had to withdraw from the community and had not come back in a long while. My wife and I are both Catholics so we do not have any differences both in beliefs and in practice if it concerns us and our family. Religious differences occurred when we joined a community. Not between my wife and I but with the other couples in the community. We had to withdraw from the community and had not come back in a long while.

]]> By: Matt http://pinaymom.org/mixed-marriages-a-case-of-modern-love/#comment-54 Matt Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:10:21 +0000 http://pinaymom.org/?p=185#comment-54 Diversity is always the key. I'm an agnostic pentacostal, my wife is theradeva buddhist. We've had a few discussions of faith and where we stand (and how we will raise children), but we have never encroached on each others lifestyles. I'm enjoying the blog, keep up the good work! Diversity is always the key.

I’m an agnostic pentacostal, my wife is theradeva buddhist. We’ve had a few discussions of faith and where we stand (and how we will raise children), but we have never encroached on each others lifestyles.

I’m enjoying the blog, keep up the good work!

]]> By: Tracy http://pinaymom.org/mixed-marriages-a-case-of-modern-love/#comment-53 Tracy Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:19:17 +0000 http://pinaymom.org/?p=185#comment-53 This happens to relate to me very much right now. My oldest son is planning to marry a very wonderful young woman this coming May; the day after they both graduate from West Point. I like her a lot. He's Caucasian and she's Latin, he's protestant and she's catholic. The catholic part is becoming somewhat of an issue because he must convert if they are to have a catholic wedding and there are implications for the children they will have some day. He's doing a lot of soul searching right now to see if he wants to convert and I pray for him to do that which is right for him. This happens to relate to me very much right now.

My oldest son is planning to marry a very wonderful young woman this coming May; the day after they both graduate from West Point. I like her a lot. He’s Caucasian and she’s Latin, he’s protestant and she’s catholic. The catholic part is becoming somewhat of an issue because he must convert if they are to have a catholic wedding and there are implications for the children they will have some day. He’s doing a lot of soul searching right now to see if he wants to convert and I pray for him to do that which is right for him.

]]> By: aldon @ orient lodge http://pinaymom.org/mixed-marriages-a-case-of-modern-love/#comment-52 aldon @ orient lodge Thu, 10 Sep 2009 16:22:27 +0000 http://pinaymom.org/?p=185#comment-52 I have been married for several years in a mixed marriage. However, my marriage is not one that people often think of as a mixed marriage. In my case, my spouse has a different gender than I have. I am male. She is female. This has worked very well for us over the years. You may wonder why I'm bringing this up. In the State of Connecticut, in the United States, it is no longer a requirement that marriages be mixed-gender marriages. Men can marry men, women can marry women. While it used to be that marriages between people of the same gender were illegal, that is not really different than how it used to be that marriages between people of different races or different religions used to be illegal. I've often found it helpful to remind married couples that they are in a mixed gender marriage as a means of getting them to think more about the similarities and differences they have with their spouses as well as the similarities and differences they have with other couples. I have been married for several years in a mixed marriage. However, my marriage is not one that people often think of as a mixed marriage. In my case, my spouse has a different gender than I have. I am male. She is female. This has worked very well for us over the years.

You may wonder why I’m bringing this up. In the State of Connecticut, in the United States, it is no longer a requirement that marriages be mixed-gender marriages. Men can marry men, women can marry women. While it used to be that marriages between people of the same gender were illegal, that is not really different than how it used to be that marriages between people of different races or different religions used to be illegal.

I’ve often found it helpful to remind married couples that they are in a mixed gender marriage as a means of getting them to think more about the similarities and differences they have with their spouses as well as the similarities and differences they have with other couples.

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